How to support loved ones who are grieving?

A person in grief experiences one of the most difficult moments in their life. Support from loved ones can play a crucial role in this process, but it’s not always easy to know how to help. It’s important to remember that every grief journey is unique, and the way support is provided depends on many factors, such as the bond with the deceased person or one’s coping mechanisms for stress.

How to Recognize Someone is Grieving?

It’s worth paying attention to the following symptoms, which may indicate that someone is experiencing grief:

• Changes in Behavior – The person may become more withdrawn, avoid contact with others, and isolate themselves.
• Sleep Disturbances – Frequent waking at night or excessive sleepiness are common symptoms during grief.
• Reduced Energy – The person may seem exhausted and less interested in daily responsibilities.

How to Support Someone in Grief?

1. Be Present – Sometimes, the most you can do is simply be there. Your presence during quiet moments offers a sense of safety and security.
2. Listen Without Judgment – It’s important to allow the person to express their emotions without judgment. Recalling shared moments and memories can help the grieving person feel less alone.
3. Practical Support – Piotr Krakowiak (2007) emphasizes the importance of offering not only emotional support but also practical help with daily tasks. Assistance with administrative matters, shopping, or cooking – these gestures can make functioning easier for someone in grief.
4. Don’t Force Action – Grief is a process that requires time. Try not to pressure the person to quickly return to ‘normal life’.
5. Encourage Seeking Help – If you notice that a loved one is struggling to cope with their loss, it’s worth suggesting therapeutic support. Wanda Badura-Madej (1999) points to the role of specialists who help in managing the profound emotions associated with grief.

What to Avoid When Supporting Someone in Grief?

• Minimizing the Loss – Avoid statements like ‘life goes on’ or ‘everything comes to an end.’ Every loss is unique, and the grieving person experiences it in their own way.
• Comparing to Others – Every grief journey is different. Comparing it to other experiences can only deepen the feeling of loneliness.

When is it Worth Seeking Psychotherapeutic Help?

If you notice that a grieving person is struggling to cope with daily life or has difficulty opening up to others, it’s worth suggesting therapeutic support. As Levine (2015) notes, professional support can help navigate the process of adapting to a new life after loss.

Helping those in grief is a delicate art. It’s crucial to be patient, open to the other person’s emotions, and offer help as needed.